Positive Climate

Positive Climate

In my previous blog, I described the first step towards a positive leadership approach, the positive mindset. We need to learn to see possibilities instead of only what is present and focus on strengths instead of weaknesses. In this third blog, I will explore the...

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Meaning and Well-being

Meaning and Well-being

Having Meaning in life is good for you Positive Psychology (PP) research consistently shows that experiencing high levels of meaning in life is associated with all sorts of positive wellbeing indicators such as life satisfaction, hope, optimism and resilience to name...

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How to Spice up Your Sex Life

How to Spice up Your Sex Life

Questions that Couples rarely ask each other are:  How good is our sex life? Give an honest calibration out of 10 for quality and quantity. What am I not doing that you would like me to do? What am I doing that you would like more of? What am I doing that you would...

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Positive Mindset

Positive Mindset

Being a leader can be quite challenging. You are responsible for your team, your department and your business goals. You want to be successful and motivate your people to perform at their best. After all, you all want to achieve great results, no? Well, it might not...

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Global Positive Hope

Global Positive Hope

In Greek methodology, hope was the only remaining element in Pandora’s jar when she unleashed all the evils in the world. Bearing in mind our current climate I feel hope is the only way forward and we must cultivate it in abundance. Hope is defined as “to want...

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How To Maximise Your Strengths

How To Maximise Your Strengths

How do we know when we are using our strengths? It is when we are feeling energised when a task is easy and enjoyable to complete. It is when time passes quickly when we look up and think where did those two hours go. It is when we have a feeling of satisfaction in...

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Tapping Into Your Creative Genius

Tapping Into Your Creative Genius

Changes are happening in all areas of our lives due to continual covid lockdowns. Work, home, business, education, socialising, family, entertainment, health, economy, finance, travel, community - many things are crumbling before our eyes. This leaves us with both a...

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The Light Life Listen

The Light Life Listen

Put it all away. Turn off the sound. Listen. Breathe in and then out. What do you hear? What is around you? What have we taken for granted as an organic contribution to your aesthetics? Does the natural sound of where you are contribute to your overall sense of well...

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Let the Light Life Sparkle

Let the Light Life Sparkle

The Light Life will sparkle with joy, bliss and love. This new blog is my contribution to The Positive Psychology People. We’ve been living in some darker times for so many individuals. Some of us have lived in unabashed privilege and comfort while others have...

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Global Pandemic

Global Pandemic

The world grew quiet, Streets were empty, The silence, eerie, not serene. People were afraid, Stalked by an invisible foe, Noise signalling threat. In isolation humanity retreated, An apocalyptic stillness. But the earth endured, The sun turned, While birdsong...

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Hard Times

Hard Times

Imagine you were born holding the script of your life in your hand. Imagine if you, your mother your loved ones could erase all the bad things that were going to happen to you. Imagine if your life were to be one of total bliss and happiness. Imagine if nothing bad...

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The Power of Goal Setting

The Power of Goal Setting

In the dawn of time, with the ebb and flow of the rhythm of life, the presence of change whispers.  This is the first stirrings of a new beginning.  This is the face of the New Year and regarding 2020, also a new decade.  The word NEW echoes through as one chapter...

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Patience

Patience

What’s the hurry? There are many lessons to be learnt in life. Some take longer than others to master. For me, one of the hardest is patience. Patience is a nemesis that I still have to conquer. You could say that I am impatient to become the King of patience. The...

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Choose a Happy Winter

Choose a Happy Winter

Choose a Happy Winter We are beginning to get the first hints of winter, but before we start hibernating I'd like to take time to appreciate the autumn. What a beautiful autumn it has been. The season never fails to delight and by directly and consciously focusing on...

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Cat Got Your Tongue?

Cat Got Your Tongue?

I consider myself to be a confident person.  I am accustomed to standing in front of a room full of people and speaking.  In my work, I deliver training as well as work as cabin crew, so I am always communicating.  However, put me in a social situation such as a party...

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Let’s Slow Down To Speed Up

Let’s Slow Down To Speed Up

  We live in a fast-changing world. We all feel it. Technology evolves at a high speed and it seems the challenges get more difficult by the day. In order to cope, we work harder and faster. We seem to be stuck in fast forward.   Getting caught in the fast...

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Making Lemonade When Life Gives Us Lemons

Making Lemonade When Life Gives Us Lemons

I have always been curious about why, despite really tough circumstances, many people manage to take the lemons life throws at them and make them into lemonade. I have also always loved this saying. Apart from making me smile at the thought of adodging lemons being...

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Nature’s Strengths

Nature’s Strengths

I have often written about the many benefits of being in nature which include increased feelings of well-being and happiness, reduced stress levels, improved concentration and lowered blood pressure.  This summer has offered many opportunities to explore varied...

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Choosing Love

Choosing Love

  “No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its...

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Children and Device Use

Children and Device Use

There is no denying that family life can be demanding, juggling parenting with working and running a home.  Children need interaction in some form or other and often there isn’t the time or opportunity to give them the attention that they need.  Parents look to their...

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Forgiveness as a Strength

Forgiveness as a Strength

Knowing your strengths Knowing and developing one’s signature strengths is a core feature of Positive Psychology. Regularly using our top strengths, rather than focusing on our weaknesses is an evidenced based means of promoting well-being. That’s not to say we should...

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Positive Courage

Positive Courage

What does Positive Psychology say about Courage? Earlier philosophers state how courage is an essential virtue which floats between cowardice and rashness (Aristotle, 350 BCE/1999).  The changing face of courage has shifted from support for a diminishing cause viewed...

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The Power of Faith and How to Cultivate it

The Power of Faith and How to Cultivate it

Imagine a life full of hope, peace, freedom, acceptance, patience, courage and optimism, versus a life of doubt, agitation, restriction, blame, urgency, fear and worry. Though we’ll all experience the latter to some degree, only faith brings the former into my life....

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Getting your flow

Getting your flow

Identification The classic “go to” piece of advice when you find yourself worried, anxious, grieving,  broken hearted, or angry is near enough always the same: “distract yourself” or “try to take your mind off of things”. These phrases are much more easier said than...

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Litter – A walk in the Park

Litter – A walk in the Park

  Recently, I was walking in Richmond Park with my partner, our friend and her two young children. It was a beautiful spring day and a real chance to blow away the cobwebs. Richmond Park is outstandingly beautiful and well maintained. Sadly, not all visitors...

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Humor in the workplace

Humor in the workplace

Being part of an organization can be exciting. It’s a place to share ideas, collaborate, and feel as though you are making a difference. And, sometimes it can be stressful. Personality conflicts and miscommunication can contribute to stress in the workplace. In some...

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Finding Paths to Resilience

Finding Paths to Resilience

Looking back at my own life journey, particularly over the last decade, I see my personal path to resilience as a series of blue sky days with golden sun-rays with some very grey days flooded by thundery showers. Yet despite some stormy times, I generally find myself...

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Words and meanings of Gibran

Words and meanings of Gibran

​ “My house says to me, ‘Do not leave me, for here dwells your past.’ And the road says to me, ’Come and follow me, for I am your future.’ And I say to both my house and the road, ‘I have no past, nor have I a future. If I stay here, there is a going in my staying;...

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Shame or Self-Compassion?

Shame or Self-Compassion?

Can we live a good life alongside shame? If we are to aspire to the positive psychology goal of a good life to flourish and thrive, we need a conversation about the role of Shame, and in particular, society’s obsession with the body and the impact that message has on...

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RAISE Your Bar in the Classroom

RAISE Your Bar in the Classroom

As I set out to write this piece, I thought of who my audience might be. Should I write for elementary age learning, adult learning, in the classroom, or online? After a few seconds of thought, I determined that there are benefits across the board. Learning and...

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Six of My Top Life Lessons

Six of My Top Life Lessons

I could probably write 100 life lessons but, I’ll save that for my future book! I love learning about myself, about others and about this thing we call life. And, I love teaching and sharing my lessons with anyone who’ll listen. If you’re up for listening, without...

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The Positive Power of Having a Pet

The Positive Power of Having a Pet

And so the story begins… Nine years ago I was blessed with a cat.  My childhood home only briefly had pets: a puppy which got ill very quickly and had to be put down.  Another puppy, which ran away while we were on holiday, when staying with my aunt and uncle and...

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The Power of Music

The Power of Music

Do you recognise that feeling when you are in the car listening to some music and then they play something that strikes a chord and it reminds you of someone or some situation and wham, you just start crying. Well, I do.  Quite annoying when you are on your way to...

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Can Your Job Make you Happy?

Can Your Job Make you Happy?

Job, Career or Calling? Most people spend a large part of their life at work. How can this significant investment of our endeavor contribute to our happiness? Seligman (2002) suggested that individuals can see their work as a job, a career or a calling and that which...

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Positive Education

Positive Education

The science of Positive Education What is positive education? Well it is perceived in Positive Psychology as positive emotions and attitudes derived from subjective wellbeing student’s experiences within their schooling environment. So how would we create a school...

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“Why me?” Well, why NOT you?

“Why me?” Well, why NOT you?

When things are bad in your life, it’s easy to think ‘why me?’. Why do I have a rubbish job? Why is my relationship not working? Why did I lose my phone? Why is my family so difficult? Why am I sick? Why do people treat me poorly? Why did my car break down? Why didn’t...

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Noetic Nomad Avoiding Anger

Noetic Nomad Avoiding Anger

When we avoid anger, is it necessarily a bad thing? When someone wants absolute peace in their lives, they are going to choose to avoid anger. Not the emotion of anger, but the acts of angry people. The peace-seeker doesn’t do this because they can’t handle it, but...

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Forgetting to Live

Forgetting to Live

I often find myself in a state of what I call ‘forgetting to live’ and wasting my time away thinking about what I want from life, what I need to tackle and other life worries. I know this is a habit I’ve had since I was a child and every now and then I’ve tried to...

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Me, Silence and Self-Compassion

Me, Silence and Self-Compassion

Setting the Scene I feel the need to mention here that I have experienced very little actual silence in my life.  By the time I was born, there was already a big brother, followed by 2 more siblings, I then married and have had 4 wonderful children, now blessed with a...

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On Making your bed

On Making your bed

Having decided that I would write about making your bed this month, the first thing I had to do was actually make my bed.  So I completed a task that I always do when I am home or away.  It’s something that comes naturally to me as I am a tidy person but what are the...

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Other People Matter

Other People Matter

The late Chris Peterson, one of the founding fathers of positive psychology would often begin lectures by stating: “I can sum up positive psychology in just three words: Other People Matter. Period. Anything that builds relationships between and among people is going...

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Do What Matters To You

Do What Matters To You

Doing what you don’t want to do is a travesty. OK. Maybe that sounds just a little dramatic. But, I have recently been presented with the “opportunity” to assess if and when I am committing to others or other projects that are not in line with what I need to be doing...

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Positive Psychology Questions

Positive Psychology Questions

How did you hear about positive psychology and what drew you in? As a current student of the MAPP at BNU, these are questions that my cohort and I are frequently presenting ourselves with. And they are useful ones. I find it terribly easy to get hung up on meeting the...

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The Eyes Have It

The Eyes Have It

It has been said that the eyes are the window to the soul. I believe that. When I look into someone’s eyes, I can sometimes feel their soul and I can sense how they are feeling. I am not claiming to be a psychic or a mind reader. I believe that the eyes send messages...

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That One Special Day

That One Special Day

No one day creates such a drive to make changes as New Year’s day.  Smoking will cease, sugar and chocolate ditched, gyms and various exercise plans developed as well as other types of changes decided on for this special day.   Invariably for many, in spite of the...

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Homelessness

Homelessness

In the first part of this blog about homelessness, I discussed some of the causes and what we can do to help people who find them in this situation.  Homelessness continues to be a worldwide issue.  In this blog, I am going to discuss the cycle of homelessness and...

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Authentic Leadership

Authentic Leadership

In the midst of belief, when you are the only one in the knowing, it can feel like you are wondering in darkness, as everyone you meet doesn’t know your clarity. It is not a form of realisation for everyone to see. It is just a thought, a feeling, a deep sense of...

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A New Year, a New Beginning?

A New Year, a New Beginning?

A new year is always a good opportunity to reflect on the previous one. To look back and review what you have learned and how you handled the challenges life gave you. It is also an opportunity to set intentions for the coming year.  And maybe this year, you can...

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What Is Positive Love?

What Is Positive Love?

Positive Psychology and Love To be or not to be in love? That is the question. Everyone knows love is good for you but what does positive psychology say about. Let’s kick start the process of love with some philosophical references such as Irving Singer (1984) who...

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Self Determination

Self Determination

New Year, New You? January is typically a time for resolutions, reflection and new goals. Like many people, self regulation is near the bottom of my list of strengths, so self improvement can be a challenge!. Often, we know what we want to change but we just can’t...

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We Need To Talk About Wellbeing…

We Need To Talk About Wellbeing…

What does wellbeing mean to you? Is it about physical health, mental health? Is it a feeling? A measurable state? Whilst we might all hold an aspiration for high levels of wellbeing, we may not all have the same thing in mind when we talk about it. So, when we ask...

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The Joy Of Knitting

The Joy Of Knitting

Isn't it funny, you do something for years, you really enjoy it, you know that it is good for you and eventually scientific research backs up your personal experience. I'm pleased to say that that is happening with crafting and in particular knitting at the moment. In...

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The Positive Highly Sensitive Person

The Positive Highly Sensitive Person

A few years ago, I discovered that I am a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). One of the key traits of an HSP is that our emotions are tuned a lot higher than the average person which brings about a number of challenges in life, especially in social situations and...

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Homelessness

Homelessness

It was a warm and sunny day.  I had just arrived at Waterloo station to meet a good friend of mine for a long overdue catch up over lunch.  As I walked down the steps of the station entrance, a familiar sight beheld me.  Sitting quietly, a man in his forties, watching...

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Perfectly Imperfect

Perfectly Imperfect

Last year, I heard this story about a little girl. She was 6 and went to a local school near her house. One day, in class, her teacher asked the children to make a drawing of a house. So she made this drawing of a beautiful purple house, with a yellow roof, a blue...

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The Emotional Life of Trust

The Emotional Life of Trust

Have you ever thought about trust? It’s a hard concept to pin down: What do we mean when we talk about trust, how does it affect our day to day living? This blog takes a quick look at how we might define trust, and what this has to do with emotions. Defining trust...

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Taking Goodness For Granted

Taking Goodness For Granted

As I was sitting here thinking of what to write, the words, “taking goodness for granted” popped into my mind. Not knowing exactly what those words meant, I decide to just start typing and see what would land on the page. I know I am not the only who has the ability...

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Showing Up

Showing Up

I was going to write a blog about an academic issue.  Then I decided to share a personal story that causes me great pain instead. I have a brother who is an alcoholic. It is a very sad situation in which he is severely ill with this condition and is no longer an...

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Positive Stress

Positive Stress

I have recently teamed up with Olympic Sailing Coach Pete Conway to speak about Positive and Negative Stress. It is really exciting to learn how to use our stress in the right way to help our positive psychology. When we see athletes performing at their optimal...

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The Gift of Kindness

The Gift of Kindness

Early Lessons ‘Be kind’ was one of the first messages or lessons taught to me growing up. In fact, it was and remains one of the most important values taught to me as a small child. When reflecting on my childhood, both at home and school, all around me were messages...

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Giving Back To The Ocean

Giving Back To The Ocean

The positive effects between our wellbeing and increased exposure to natural environments is widely referenced in modern literature. Bowler, Buyung-Ali and Knight (2009) are among researchers who have found the positive benefit of going for a walk is larger when...

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The Ripple Effect of Kindness

The Ripple Effect of Kindness

When I was in my late teens I worked in a factory just outside of Birmingham. I can clearly remember a cartoon one of my work mates had pinned on his locker. There were four captions, the first showed a boss yelling and wagging his finger at a worker. The next caption...

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Eulogy

Eulogy

At the end of July, my beloved Nan sadly passed away.  My Mum asked me if I would be prepared to write and read a eulogy for her, knowing she would not be able to do it herself.  I agreed to do it even though I have neither written nor read a eulogy before.  I felt...

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Finding Me

Finding Me

On the commencement of 2018, I made a New Year's resolution, I have tried them before and some I stuck to and some I did not. However, this one was different. The pact I made to myself was to spend 2018 finding me, the real me, the authentic me and see how the way I...

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The power of nature

The power of nature

While we live our busy lives, we tend to forget how beneficial it can be to spend time in nature. Is there anything more beautiful then nature? Being outdoors is not only fun, it is also good for the brain, body and soul. Every minute spent in nature offers a boost to...

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Building One’s Motivation

Building One’s Motivation

What does positive psychology say about motivation? Motivation is an imperative aspect of human functioning without it we would seize to do the most important tasks in our lives. So what is it? And where does positive psychology take it? Positive psychology has...

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Being Your Own Best Friend

Being Your Own Best Friend

When being asked to consider questions such as "Who can you rely on?" "Who makes you feel good?" "Who is always there for your emotional needs?" we tend to picture one person in our mind immediately or handpick a few of our peers who perhaps embody the answer to one...

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Savouring rather than mindfulness?

Savouring rather than mindfulness?

Using savouring to expand our mindful experiences into appreciation There is a great deal of information out there that suggests we should engage in being more mindfully in the present moment. This blog explores what this means, and considers whether savouring might...

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A different kind of self introduction

A different kind of self introduction

“Nice to meet you. It’s a wonderful starry night, have you seen the epic full moon tonight? Do you also enjoy taking photos of colorful sunsets or feel a bit reassured when you spot the moon while walking alone at night? Isn’t being alive and able to witness the...

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Try Kindness, It’s Fun

Try Kindness, It’s Fun

It really isn’t that hard to be kind. Yet, I see people struggling to put a smile on their faces. I understand that everyone has struggles and sometimes they are experiencing grief, sadness, and a heaviness of weighted burden in their lives. What I want to say here is...

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I Want To Tell You A Story…

I Want To Tell You A Story…

...about how story-telling can generate trust. When someone tells you about something that happened to them, do you get that feeling that you want to tell them about something similar that happened to you? Whilst waiting for a bus recently, I struck up a conversation...

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Positive Relationships with Teenagers

Positive Relationships with Teenagers

“They **** you up, your mum and dad.  They don’t mean to but they do” – Philip Larkin, This Be the Verse I have two teenage daughters aged 13 and 16; when I tell people this, I am often met with a sharp intake of breath – oooo, teenagers, that’s a difficult age! ...

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Laugh Yourself A Bridge

Laugh Yourself A Bridge

Staying positive when life throws you a curve ball is not always easy. And I was reminded of a video I made a few months ago and maybe you can relate to it in some way. Maybe you can laugh yourself a bridge? Where it all started to make sense Imagine just how bad it...

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It All Started With The Snow

It All Started With The Snow

This year the UK’s crazy weather began with the ‘Beast from the East’. Plunged into the middle of Siberia everyone was surrounded by cold, beautiful snow, deeper than we had seen in years. Cars were buried beneath mountains of white and yet the sky kept falling as...

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National Pride

National Pride

It’s summer 2018 and as we bask in the beginnings of an already glorious season, much of the nation dreams.   Could football really be coming home?  The swelling of national pride across the country indicates that there is more belief than for a long time.  Whatever...

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The Emotional Carousel

The Emotional Carousel

The Emotional Carousel that encompasses the inner emotional turmoil gathered through the journey of life. It lays in the wake of our existence, sometimes gentle vibrating, sometimes engulfs every essence of you and sometimes it feels like it has vacated somewhere new...

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The Art of Doing Nothing

The Art of Doing Nothing

Apart from some exceptions, we, human beings, are not so good at 'doing nothing'. On the contrary, we are generally very busy bees, especially in today's society. We are continuously busy with anything and everything. One more useful than the other. The pressure to...

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The Power Of Self-Belief

The Power Of Self-Belief

What does positive psychology say about self-belief? Positive psychology advocates human flourishing (Seligman, 1998), which also directs us towards changing our bad habits into good habits for the purpose of optimal wellbeing. Thus building self belief into a pro...

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The Power of Silence

The Power of Silence

In the last six months I’ve had three experiences of silent retreats. This has given me the opportunity to reflect on the power of silence and the range of responses it elicits from people. Some people embrace silence. I am one of them. I live with my husband and our...

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Healthy Body, Healthy Mind

Healthy Body, Healthy Mind

I am continually excited about new research findings that add to our understanding of the benefits of doing things that are natural and free. Natural and free are important considerations as it means that they are accessible to most people. The Big Five Recently I...

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Musical Team Building

Musical Team Building

In March my partner and I attended a conference for the network company we are involved in.  After lunch we had a musical team building session.  In 45 minutes, a room full of 3500 delegates came together in a hilarious, energising musical team building exercise. The...

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Caring For Carers

Caring For Carers

The Demand for Carers A number of societal issues mean that more people are living longer in different circumstances. An ageing population, the advent of the mobile phone (meaning emergency reporting is more rapid) and new and better health diagnostics and treatments,...

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Mindfulness with children

Mindfulness with children

Children are amazing because they are mindful. When a child is shy they may express their feelings of shyness without fear, they are just ‘being’. They may be open to and aware of what they are experiencing in that moment without repression. Children start life...

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Who Are You Hugging Today?

Who Are You Hugging Today?

So today is April 25th, 2018 – just another day really, no birthdays or occasions in the family- but I found myself wondering if it was a special day of celebration for others, maybe even nationally or internationally, so I decided to find out. Well according to...

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Laughter Prescription

Laughter Prescription

I recently had the honor of interviewing Janni Goss about her book ‘Love Laughter and Longevity. The Art and Science of Wellbeing’. One thing I would love to share with you is her Laughter Prescription. What a great way to enhance your life and keep you positive. She...

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Nature’s Spring Gift

Nature’s Spring Gift

Without any effort I am feeling more energised and I'm experiencing more positive emotions. Then I realise why. It's spring, the days are getting longer and nature shows us that we are on a different trajectory, no longer hunkering down and keeping warm, instead we...

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The Snowflake Generation

The Snowflake Generation

Generation Snowflake I was scrolling though my Facebook wall the other day and stumbled upon an article, referencing Generation Snowflake or The Snowflake Generation.  Having not heard of it before, I opened the article, despite it coming from a newspaper that I would...

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Compassion Is…

Compassion Is…

The vibration of laughter, the experience of joy, the most authentic part of being a human being. A lightness, a soft glow and an expanding energy field which helps us attract our desires, hopes and dreams. It makes you feel like flying, being free and a peacefulness...

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How Letting Go Can Make You Happy

How Letting Go Can Make You Happy

Fear is a human emotion and is part of our lives. Fear can be useful, and without fear, you can not function properly. Fear allows you to respond alertly to a potentially threatening situation. But fear can also be restrictive and stand in the way of a happy life....

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smArt cIty = hAppy cIty

smArt cIty = hAppy cIty

Sheikh Mohammed, Ruler of Dubai, said "Our ambition for this project is to touch the life of every individual in our country: every mother in her home, employee in his work, investor in his project, child in school, or a doctor in his clinic. Our aim is a happier life...

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What Drives You Mad?

What Drives You Mad?

Be honest… you get angry when virtually every driver you meet ploughs through traffic lights on red, right? Or when the ‘phone rings constantly with people trying to sell you something that you don’t want or need. Such daily annoyances can build up and lead to...

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Self-care is ‘trending’

Self-care is ‘trending’

According to ‘The Sunday Times’ Style magazine “2018 is going to be The year of Self-Care”. [1] I wonder what Kristen Neff will be thinking about her decade of research finally having its moment in the UK? The Times article is generic and accessible and offers fast...

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Laugh Into Compassion

Laugh Into Compassion

“Laughter is the tonic, the relief, the surcease for pain.” - Charlie Chaplin It is always great when you hear a friend speak about the progress you have made. Last week during the closing party for my online summit my good friend, Rohit Bassi, co-author of the book...

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Release and Focus

Release and Focus

Release and Focus. My two words for 2018. What worked last year? What didn’t work? I made a vow to myself to leave whatever didn’t work in the past year. Although I look back and see what didn’t work, I also ask myself, “What did I learn from those experiences?” When...

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A New State of Flow

A New State of Flow

At the start of the year I can look back over the first term of teaching in the academic year, and this year I am very appreciative of an unexpected experience I had. In the autumn term I write references for my students who are applying to university. This is a time...

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Mandalas and Adult Colouring

Mandalas and Adult Colouring

It is almost two years since I was introduced to the idea of colouring Mandalas as a form of relaxation.  I was in Phoenix on a work trip and got talking to one of my crew colleagues on the flight over.  She told me that she had started colouring Mandalas when her...

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Let’s FLOW out of a Bad Day!

Let’s FLOW out of a Bad Day!

Let’s FLOW out of a Bad Day! “Breathe.  It’s Just a Bad Day, Not a Bad Life” ~ unknown Before Taking Positive Psychology my thoughts about the course were a little mixed.  I wondered if throughout the course we’d analyze how positive our mindset was and honestly, that...

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The Epiphany of Self-love

The Epiphany of Self-love

“I am the most important person in the world to me” Finding Mindfulness and Purposeful Self-love Judging by the name, I thought Positive Psychology would be focused on happiness and how to achieve that state of mind. I thought the emphasis would be given to behaviors...

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Positive Psychology and Values

Positive Psychology and Values

In a recent conversation with a fellow MAPP (MSc in Applied Positive Psychology) student we found ourselves covering the full range of typical positive psychology themes; hope, resilience, love, gratitude, forgiveness, authenticity, growth, compassion. My colleague...

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Sweet Sorrow

Sweet Sorrow

When you lose someone you love, they remain lost, but eventually those left behind do find themselves again. Men and showing emotions It is often said that most men do not show their emotions – but this is not true. What is true is that most men do not show their...

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Make a New Year ReVOlution

Make a New Year ReVOlution

If you’re thinking of making a New Year Resolution I don’t want to throw water on your fire but, the odds are against you. 80% of resolutions fail by February in America (1) and about 60% of people who make resolutions in the UK will quit within 3 months (2). The...

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Smile

Smile

“Count your age by friends not years. Count your life by smiles not tears” John Lennon I was at an Open Heart Meditation class recently, which is different from a traditional meditation class in that the meditation is done through the heart and not the head. A...

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Addiction Psychology

Addiction Psychology

In my last two articles, I discussed habit versus addiction and then looked at habit in more detail.  To conclude the series, I now want to explore the psychology of addiction. What is addiction? Addiction is when a person uses a substance or activity for pleasure, to...

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Be The Change

Be The Change

A paradigm shift of consciousness on all levels seems to be gathering momentum. A shift from old habitual negative patterns. Those restrictive patterns that fear bound thinking, emotions and behaviours bring about, to a new positive pattern of adventure, joy and...

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The Gift of Autumn

The Gift of Autumn

Research done by Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman from the University of Pennsylvania’s Positive Psychology Centre shows that from all the character strengths, gratitude is the single best predictor of well-being. I have mentioned this before in a previous blog but I would...

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Hope In The Age Of Obesity

Hope In The Age Of Obesity

Snyder’s Theory of Hope Snyder’s (2002) Hope Theory assumes human behaviour is fundamentally goal orientated. Hope is seen as arising from two components: Waypower, which is the perceived ability of the person to generate pathways towards achieving valued goals and...

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Laughter and The Golden Years

Laughter and The Golden Years

This month’s blog comes to you from Istanbul, Turkey, which was inspired as I watched a lonely old lady sitting on the road selling socks she had knitted. People have a much higher life expectancy now and this is taking its toll and we really need to make some changes...

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Positive Weight-Loss: Enjoyable Exercise

Positive Weight-Loss: Enjoyable Exercise

In the pursuit of creating a healthy lifestyle for oneself, movement is a key component with benefits that go far beyond weight-loss. However, for the individual who is unsatisfied with their weight, weight-loss is an exciting outcome of consistently exercising!...

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The Practice Of Resilience

The Practice Of Resilience

Much research on resilience to date has focused on the notion that there must be some sort of ‘significant adversity’ present before resilience can occur. However, with the constant pressures of the modern age, longer working hours and the added pressure social media...

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The Role Of Happiness – Part 2

The Role Of Happiness – Part 2

In my last blog, I talked about happiness and a life worth living. So coming back to positive emotion and inevitably happiness. Positive emotion is “any emotion which leads to growth”. So for me, this brings happiness into question because like any emotion it can lead...

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The Joy Of Walking

The Joy Of Walking

Walking is one of my favourite ways to spend my time and it is something that is free and easily available to most of us. Whether it is walking out from my front door or walking in a national park, the effect it has on me is always positive. I find my mood becomes...

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What is a Bad Habit?

What is a Bad Habit?

In my last blog I wrote about addiction versus habit.  Habits can be positive or negative.  This article explores what makes a bad habit form and how we can overcome them.  Wikipedia describes a bad habit as: ‘a negative behaviour pattern. Common examples include...

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Stop Searching For Yourself

Stop Searching For Yourself

Nowadays we are overwhelmed from all sides with books, retreats, courses, workshops and sabbaticals to discover yourself.  The happiness market is in full swing. We have to search for our ‘authentic self. ‘ We are evolving creatures, we change constantly, so how can...

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Self-Compassion

Self-Compassion

Self Compassion or self indulgence? We are all familiar with the advice that, “you can't look after others unless you first take care of yourself”. I have communicated this idea many times, in various forms, to others genuinely and helpfully, in the role of friend,...

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Three Steps to Compassion

Three Steps to Compassion

Three steps to compassion; reinventing the Serenity Prayer   This blog will explore what we mean by compassion, and see how it might be applied to the well known 'serenity prayer'. By understanding compassion in this way we can start to see that compassion isn't...

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Micro Moments of Love

Micro Moments of Love

In her book Love 2.0, Barbara Fredrickson (Fredrickson, 2013) claims we can experience micro-moments of love numerous times a day, even with complete strangers. She goes on to say that any moment of connection with another person gives the same pleasure as felt when...

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Addiction vs Habit

Addiction vs Habit

  Am I addicted? Recently I have started to question whether I have an addiction to alcohol.  Life has continued to throw its challenges in our lives and I find myself drinking something virtually every day.  Is that considered an addiction though? Or is it a...

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Renewable Vitality : FLOW

Renewable Vitality : FLOW

“The happiest people spend much time in a state of flow, the state in which people are so involved in an activity that nothing else seems to matter…” If I’m being honest, I wasn’t 100% willing to go back to college. I had taken a small hiatus in between classes, which...

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Habits to well-being

Habits to well-being

The unfortunate thing about this world is that good habits are so much easier to give up than bad ones.~Somerset Maugham Upon taking this course, I thought it was a course teaching the positives of psychology.  I wondered, to myself,  there must be a course called...

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Mindful Versus Mindless 

Mindful Versus Mindless 

The rise and rise of mindfulness Mindfulness is, in it’s simplest form, conscious awareness. It has become big business. The assistant head teacher responsible for pastoral care at my children's secondary school tells me he is overwhelmed with emails from businesses...

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Habits and Communication

Habits and Communication

“In a relationship, when communication starts to fade, everything else follows.” Before Taking Positive Psychology I was not sure what to expect. I thought the class would be about how to have a more positive attitude and outlook on life. This class taught me many...

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Is Less Able, More Able?

Is Less Able, More Able?

I have to thank Dan Collinson a fellow positive psychology practitioner for helping cultivate and inspire this seed thought – ‘is less able, more able’. The image I chose for this piece is one I captured whilst in China. To me, this speaks of individuality and...

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Fake News

Fake News

I cannot get the picture of President Trump pointing his finger at members of the press and stating ‘You are fake news’ out of my mind. And the accompanying news report, stating that statistics show that people are unable to differentiate between fake and real news....

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How to Empower Woman through Laughter

How to Empower Woman through Laughter

Part 1. Woman in Business More and more companies are focusing on empowering woman in the work place and this is a subject close to my heart. The positive outcomes through doing this are amazing and beneficial to all involved and are the inspiration of my upcoming...

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