When we avoid anger, is it necessarily a bad thing? When someone wants absolute peace in their lives, they are going to choose to avoid anger. Not the emotion of anger, but the acts of angry people. The peace-seeker doesn’t do this because they can’t handle it, but because they choose not to expose themselves to too much negativity. 

They know that in order to live a happy, peaceful life, they have to choose where to live. Our thoughts and environment determine the lens with which to see. 


The view from here, seems to be thriving on anger these days. People love to listen to the anger-packed news, or believe something negative without giving it a second thought. They seem to be thrilled by being angry about this cause or that injustice. A lot of the anger is justified. Most of it is promoting to spark anger. 

We’re living in some difficult times these days. But are they really as difficult as we make them? 

It’s not all justified, and it’s not all necessary. Sometimes, we just have to pull the plug on the anger band wagon, and simply, walk away. 


There is a bad avoidance and a good avoidance. The bad kind is when avoiding something can be detrimental to our overall well being. Avoiding confrontation with a difficult co-worker, or avoiding paying bills because we don’t have enough money to pay them all. These are real problems that make people angry. Avoiding the hard or difficult things in life aren’t going to resolve anything. They are only going to post pone the pain. That’s not healthy. 

Avoiding toxic or negative experiences however, is a choice. When we choose to invite in love and light, we also choose to leave out the negative or toxic experiences that cause us emotional pain. 

In order to be healthy, happy and whole, we are going to experience hardships. Some of us experience more of them than others. Some of us know the profound feeling of peace as a saving grace experience. 

We know that when we want to live in a happy, healthy world, we have to manifest the conscious decision not to get caught up in the negative more than absolutely necessary. It doesn’t mean we aren’t concerned about world problems, It’s because we know that the ripple effect of the loving kindness, compassion, empathy and seeing the good in the world helps to create a better place for everyone else around us. 

When we clear the space that the lower energy vibration of anger created, we hit the refresh button on joy. 

We create a life of love. We choose the lighter, happier experience of joy. Then, we fill our worldview with seeing the good in people. We can heal others once we have healed ourselves. There is no need for all day, every day negativity. There is a very real need for all day, every day authentic sharing of light and love. 

In peace and light,



Author: Karen Henry [Daly], MA CRM owns Henry Healing as a holistic well-being practitioner and writer. She’s a former university professor and current scholar practicing the infusion of holistic healing and positive psychology.




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