This journey into our 2022, the light life is curious. But I’m also wary, which makes for an eclectic mix of questions at this juncture in the journey through our positive psychology. 

The parts of ourselves that were rattled with grief, remain pain points for us to focus our healing. 

The unconscious became conscious on several fronts, throughout our journey. Everything about our language, our worldview and even our friendships shifted and changed. 

Those of us who live in the United States have also realized how very divided many of us are about our fundamental belief systems, and/or systemic ideals on what the world should look like. 

Be curious

  • Curiosity about the thoughts or actions of others seems to be a solution. 
  • Curiosity about why people got away with despicable things, while also boasting about being above all others. 
  • Curiosity about our core sense of self in relation to others became more defined.

‘Why’ is a question I found myself asking, time and time again. A character on the TV show, Gray’s Anatomy had a line that I personally, felt aligned with as I defined my purpose here. 

“I lost myself for a long time.” Christina said, as she awoke from a pattern of wholeness that felt inauthentic. 

So many of us woke up to want more for ourselves. We realized how much of our decision making was based on settling just to fit in, or, nesting under the wing of the more powerful, just to survive the collective way we now work, as we nested during this pandemic. 

Ted Lasso (another TV show award winner), had a great speech when facing down a corporate powerhouse bully. 

“Be curious, not judgmental”

Ted went on to explain that his entire life, people underestimated him based on the outside. They were judgemental toward him but they were never curious. He was bullied a great deal, but while the bullies and judgemental people disregarded his abilities, he was honing his skills into becoming an outstanding human with special talents. 

For me, and perhaps you can relate, I unpacked a great deal of the last 50+ years of my life last year. It was a bit overwhelming at times, to be honest. We’re told to disclose our vulnerabilities, right? 

In theory, that’s a brilliant idea. In execution, not as much. Unless the stakeholders in your life also welcome that vulnerability. 

I did it though. I unpacked; unleashed; and even UN-learned a great deal that my blinders-on way of living told me I had to live. 

Post Traumatic Growth

I had to shift my awareness not only to how I was living my post-traumatic-growth life, but also how I was allowing others to treat me. It was not easy, but it was necessary. 

I chose to head into 2022 as a curious person, not a judgmental person. 

It is a theme in our mass media, but it is also a theme we can all benefit from in our pursuit of happiness. 

Be curious in your pursuit of positive psychology. Not judgemental. Unlearning is part of learning the purpose of our field of choice. Vulnerability is a part of that journey. 

Don’t just settle for what is being taught to you. Question it. Question everything. Then decide what your special talents are. The collective consciousness will grow because of it. 

In Peace and Light,

k. Aren

Author: k.  Aren Henry has a masters in community psychology and an advanced graduate certificate in mental health counseling. The Light Life is part of her “happiness noir” series, copyright 2021 ©  She’s a private practitioner and researcher in the United States. Henry Healing dot com is her calling card. 



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