She learns, and then she creates a world she wants to live in. We are not a singular being, yet until we define who we are as individuals, how can we possibly become part of the whole, let alone become part of the greater good? 

We are collectively giving in to the mass popular opinion. In trade for being socially accepted, without truly focusing on anything deeper, we acclimate ourselves to how those opinions align with our own values. 

Are we learning anything if we also repeat the mistakes of our ancestors? Or, are we becoming an actual new and improved version of humanity? What have we learned about ourselves? 

To Learn

We have the knowledge, research, evidence, and technology to learn from our past. We know better. In some ways, we are doing better at this thing called, life. We have the ability to learn from our past. We can even learn from the past of our parents, or their parents. Why don’t we apply that to create an authentic happier, healthier life? 

We get stuck in acceptance and perception, that’s why. We are mired hip deep in the opinions of others. We’ve taken the greatest advancement in civilized history, and turned it into a cage of other people’s values, views, peer pressure and visual approval.

To Love

While we in the positive psychology field have set out to focus on what is good in life, the social media megalodon of our lives have turned it into a gilded prison of popular opinion. We are pressured into tip toeing around our thoughts. Instead of becoming aligned with actual authentic life, we find ourselves in love with the idea of being so original that everyone is a copy of everyone else.

Love yourself so much that the opinion of others can’t rattle you, no matter what. Like yourself enough to change whatever isn’t working, on your own terms. Find your own light, then follow that. 


Turn on the light in your soul work. Gain strength from your own understanding of the mission and meaning; your purpose here on earth. Create your world to align with your values, but do no harm. Finding meaning isn’t some esoteric value created for decorative wall art and memes worth sharing. It’s the embodiment of truth for your reason for being here. 

If others don’t see your value because they can’t see past the human suit you’re wearing, then it is them missing out, not you. You don’t have to be picture perfect or have an Instagram account with millions of followers to know that you are doing your best work. You just have to love and like yourself so much that you continue to work on yourself. 

In this world, if you can be anything, be true to yourself. Learn from your former self so that your present self realizes your own potential and your future self will be proud of how far you have come. 

In Peace and Light,


Author: Karen Henry has a masters in community psychology and an advanced graduate certificate in mental health counseling. She is the author of Indelible Women and the ReWrite series, available on Amazon. Karen’s been in the positive psychology business since 2007. She’s private practitioner and researcher in the United States. Henry Healing dot com is her calling card. 



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