Neil Wilkie
Neil is a relationship expert, author and qualified psychotherapist, with an extensive business background. After three failed attempts at traditional relationship counselling during an earlier marriage, he saw the need for a more focused and supportive approach.
He’s since worked with hundreds of couples over the last twelve years to help them move from a place of despair and unhappiness to one of closeness and harmony. The common themes and patterns that emerged during these sessions with couples provided the foundation for The Relationship Paradigm, his extraordinary approach that is proven to reconnect couples who have drifted apart. His first book, Reset – Finding a new course after drifting apart was published in January 2020 and there are nine more to come. His online course is going live in October 2020.
He believes that one of the greatest gifts in life is a loving and fulfilling relationship with another person. His mission is to Impact and Improve 10 million relationships around the world in this decade.
Is Remote Working Damaging Workplace relationships?
Remote working is damaging workplace relationships, here’s how to tackle it The pandemic has created a seismic shift in the way in which people work. Both employers and staff are in a difficult period of fear and uncertainty. For employers, there is a lack of...
The Four Different Attachment Types in Relationships.
The four different attachment types and what this means for relationships. Attachment theory says that for their social and emotional development, children need to form a relationship with at least one primary caregiver. This attachment normally develops through four...
Why Are we Rubbish?
What does the state of our rubbish say about our relationships with ourselves, our communities and our planet? Why is it that some people take pride in how they leave places that they visited and others could not care less? What impact do these different values and...
The Never Ending Search for Beauty
What will make us truly happy? There is a lot of pressure in the media to look beautiful. Do we just age gracefully and accept the inevitable impact of time or do we want to make the best of our body and brains? How do we judge what is acceptable and what is not? Are...
What is the Dating Game?
Are you in a great relationship or are you hoping to start a new one? If you are looking to start a new one, here are some thoughts contrasts with the animal world and the whole dating process laid out simply. We have been in and out of lockdown and uncertainty for...
Relationship Ripples
In this video, I talk about how one small ripple can have a huge positive or negative impact on a relationship. If we can recognise when our relationship has changed and what the ripple was, then we can either replicate the positive or deal with the reason for the...
Quarandreams
Dreams have become deeper and more vivid during lockdown. These are being called ‘Quarandreams’ Dreams are the natural and safe way that our brain uses to process thoughts, memories and possibilities to make sense of them. The brain can then let the detail fade away...
12 Relationship Challenges and How to Overcome Them
A relationship can be the most wonderful thing in the world. It can start magically but it requires a significant investment of time and energy to keep it vibrant. Here are 12 major challenges for you to address. 1. Communication Many couples drift apart...
Lockdown Emotions How They Impact Your Relationship
Lockdown is a time where the disrupted world will unleash a whole range of emotions. These are likely to be heightened by the continuing uncertainty and lack of control. Lockdown 2.0 is worse in many ways than the first because the novelty has worn off, the days are...
How to Spice up Your Sex Life
Questions that Couples rarely ask each other are: How good is our sex life? Give an honest calibration out of 10 for quality and quantity. What am I not doing that you would like me to do? What am I doing that you would like more of? What am I doing that you would...
Emotional Affairs – Where’s the Line and What to do if You’ve Crossed it?
We have a clear understanding of what an affair is and this normally involves sex. Emotional affairs do not involve sex but can be even more damaging. What is an Emotional Affair? An emotional affair between two people is a relationship with the closeness and...