by Pinky Jangra | February, 2022 | Life, Pinky Jangra
Allow me to take you by the hand and pull you back from the world and introduce you to the art of observation. Let’s retreat a little. Now, from afar, let’s look at what’s going on. Can you see it? The chaos? The confusion? The noise? The fear? Also, the hive of activity, the pace, the constant change. There’s also joy, love, progress and creativity all over the place. Perhaps you can also observe from afar, nature taking its course. The trees in the wind, the birds flying, the ocean roaring and crashing against the shore. What about looking up? At the stars, the sky, the clouds, the moon. And, what about the people and situations in your personal life, what if you just stand back and observe them, too? How does it make you feel? Does the difficult stuff make you fearful, anxious and angry to observe? Does it make you want to leap in and fix things or run away and hide? What about the peaceful natural scenes, do they bring you joy and pleasantness, do you want to immerse yourself in them? Is there also a point at which you can observe all of it and just… see it, impartially? Can you see it without wanting to be in it, without getting dragged into it or being emotionally riled by it? Just see it as ‘information’? Can you stop judging it as good, bad, right or wrong? It just is? Try this. Practise it. Stand in calm, stillness and just observe. Don’t judge, don’t try to fix, don’t fight or feel, don’t run towards or...
by Pinky Jangra | December, 2021 | Pinky Jangra, self-development, Uncategorized
The caterpillar Eat, sleep, repeat. You are what you are. You don’t even slightly resemble a butterfly. You are wonderful and unique in your own right, you are life, but you’re only ever going to crawl around on the ground. The human as a caterpillar is the human that is yet to awaken and evolve. There’s nothing wrong with this stage, it is essential. But it’s only the start. The caterpillar stage can be encompassed in Carl Jung’s statement that we spend the first half of our lives developing a healthy ego. What is ego? It’s your identity. It’s who you think you are based on your childhood experiences. Your personality, the way you think the world works, how you relate to others, your belief systems. It’s limited, it’s structured, it’s fixed, it’s repetitive. You may grow a little within the bounds of your ego, but you do not drastically change or transform. You just become a bigger caterpillar. Here’s an example of my caterpillar stage: – I am what I achieve – I must work hard and prove myself – I fear rejection and abandonment – My success is based on material gain – I must get approval and validation from others – I must please others and meet their expectations – I am limited, life is limited, life is a struggle – I must hide emotions like anger or sadness and tears This is a tiny snippet of my caterpillar world. Whilst I spent years building my self-awareness and reflecting, you can learn so much about yourself just by asking a few introspective questions, observing...
by Pinky Jangra | October, 2021 | Life, Pinky Jangra
Do you feel lost? Confused? Dissatisfied with life? Why are you here? Who are you? How are you meant to live? What are you meant to do? Why don’t you feel happy with your life? Well, I can’t guarantee that I have THE answers to these complex, existential questions. But, I can share with you what I have learned, what feels true in my heart and I hope it will help you in living your true nature and purpose and experiencing more meaning, joy and fulfilment in your life. What is your true nature? A brain, a body? A mortal animal? Just another species on the planet? Yes, you are all of these. But you are also so much more. When we take a microscope and look at your cells we see atoms. When we look at those atoms more closely, we see sub-atomic particles and 99.999% empty space. When we look closer yet, physicists discover that those particles are also behaving as waves of energy. You are made of waves of energy. The physical world is at its root, not physical at all. Not only are you a non-physical being made of waves of energy, you are also an interpreter of energy. For example, when you see with your eyes you are interpreting light waves and when you hear with your ears you are interpreting sound waves. Even touch is the energetic friction felt between the atoms of your body and the thing you are ‘touching’. You also emit waves of energy. Your body generates electrical energy and it gives off heat energy. Your thoughts and feelings...
by Pinky Jangra | August, 2021 | Pinky Jangra, Relationships
Love is endless. Limitless. It never runs out. There is a constant fountain of it in your heart ready for you to pour on everyone that comes your way. When you focus on that fountain, when you don’t close the tap, when you’re non-judgemental about who it spills out on, you’ve reached a new level of love. A new level of life. It seems that the more you let this love pour out onto others the faster and greater the flow. Instead of running out, it seems to become even more abundant in supply! Love is not meant to be stagnant or limited, you’re not supposed to buck its current, put a plug in it or put a boulder in its way. It’s meant to flow. The boulders So why then, does love often seem so hard, so painful, so difficult? Because of your boulders. Your conditions. The boulders of ‘I can’t love you unless you give me something in return’. These boulders cause big splashes and dangerous waves in the river of love. They make the path of love longer and more treacherous than it needs to be because it must go around these obstacles, these conditions. True love is unconditional and painless. When you make it conditional you will feel ‘bad’, sad and blocked. You’ll feel lack, struggle and pain. Love feels hard now. But it’s not the love that’s hard. It’s the boulder you’ve placed in love’s way, the condition you’ve put on the love – that’s what causes the pain. That’s what makes it hard. How many conditions and boulders do you have in...
by Pinky Jangra | June, 2021 | Mindfulness, Pinky Jangra
The ever more connected, fast-developing digital world brings us so many opportunities. We can connect with, speak to and work with people thousands of miles away. Having information at our fingertips allows us to learn new things, often for free, on almost any topic in existence. We can know what’s going on across the globe at any time, we’re more informed than we’ve ever been. We can create our own social media profiles, websites and digital tools which allow us to express, share and contribute to this vast cloud of information. In many ways, it’s amazing and expansive. As with most things, there are also downsides. Information overload One of the downsides to this heavily digital era is information overload. There are many social media platforms with endless newsfeeds filling our brain with content. Our list of Zoom calls and notifications never seems to end. Whether we’re watching a cat video or having a video chat, reading a Twitter thread or checking WhatsApp, listening to a podcast or watching a movie, reading the news or looking at pictures – it’s like a tidal wave of digitalised information going into our head day in day out. We’ve gone from living in small tribes to small communities to cities, to being globally connected. We’ve gone from knowing information about a neighbouring tribe to a neighbouring community, to a neighbouring city, to any country on the planet. The wider our network of information, the more mental noise we experience. Just like overloading an electrical circuit can blow an appliance, does overloading our minds blow our brains?! I think it might. In amongst...
by Pinky Jangra | April, 2021 | Life, Pinky Jangra
Chasing perfection is not only futile, it’s also painful! In this video, I talk about why we seek perfection, what pitfalls this lands us in and some things to think about if you are ready to leave your days of perfectionism behind.” Read about Pinky Jangra and her other articles HERE ‘We Are The Positive Psychology...
