I consider myself a rule breaker. Growing up in a strict Indian environment there were many rules laid out for me. It’s expected that as an Indian woman, I should be conservative, quiet and live a life of servitude. I should not draw attention to myself – especially...
Sadness, anger, frustration, fear, shame, envy, resentment, guilt, stress, boredom, anxiety, depression, overwhelm, confusion, grief, unworthiness, loneliness – there are many unpleasant emotions. And let’s be honest, they feel icky. We don’t like them. We don’t want...
Alarm bells started ringing when I stopped to ponder how much of my life is driven by a single intention: to avoid rejection. It’s more of my life than I care to admit. In fact, more of my life than I had realised, until I stopped to look at it more closely today. I...
I went to an amazing workshop a few weeks ago by one of my favourite humans on the planet, Dr Gabor Maté. I wrote pages of notes as he shared wisdom on psychosomatics, child development, trauma, addiction and healing. Many things he taught struck a deep chord with me....
Have you noticed that when you remember a happy event, you don’t experience the memory of that event with the same level of joy that you experienced at the actual event? Four weeks after your glorious wedding day, your memories can only bring you a smile and a warm...
I am a believer in the power of our thoughts. I am a believer in changing our life experience by changing our thoughts. But, I am just not sure about the simplistic way in which these concepts tend to be banded about. People tell you to ‘just think more positively’....
Recently I was getting nervous about job interviews and starting a new job. Kind and supportive friends said to me ‘just be yourself’. This is great advice which I wholeheartedly agree with. I both give and live this advice as much as possible. As a...
The world of self-help has gotten very complex. There are umpteen theories and tools to increase your wellbeing, happiness and success. I use mind-set tools, emotional processes, behavioural practises and frequently I dive deep into the spiritual world. For me,...
Recently an ex Facebook employee said the platform is ‘destroying how society works’. Even Facebook has now admitted that too much use of its platform can damage people’s mental health. This applies to various social networks, not just Facebook. Social media is...
If you’re thinking of making a New Year Resolution I don’t want to throw water on your fire but, the odds are against you. 80% of resolutions fail by February in America (1) and about 60% of people who make resolutions in the UK will quit within 3 months (2). The...