Martin Luther King Jr. said it best. “Hate can not drive out hate, only love can do that”. It’s true for our new trend in mindfulness as well (well, ‘new’ in that the Western civilizations have finally accepted it from the ancient wisdoms of the Eastern cultures).

There’s nothing like an icon blazing new concepts in what we’ll follow along with, even when it’s something that’s been practiced for century’s elsewhere. Better late to the party, than not showing up at all!

When we cultivate internal love, we strengthen our reside to welcome external love, and not until. I began a book called, ‘the unwise owl companion’ a couple years ago. It was all about the incredibly bad decisions that I made in choosing whom I loved and the story of the dumpster fire ending of each and every repeat pattern of choosing someone with ultimately the same personality. Until I realized the source. Myself. Today, that book is about to launch with the title, Indelible Women. A love story.

Cultivate Kindness

It wasn’t about loving anyone else at all. Yes, in a very Freudian way in a self-exploration of the depths of my origins of bad love, it all started with my father. But that’s another book. It’s about, and always has been about, loving myself. So true for all of us.

I changed the thoughts, shifted my consciousness, and developed personal goals for spending the past year focused on loving myself. Miraculous things have happened at the mere shifting of how I view the world.

Principles I live by

  1. I fell in love with myself
  2. I have spent the year building up the courage to say, ‘no’ to things that don’t align with my vision, mission and self-love
  3. I have healed a perpetual broken heart by choosing not to allow anyone ever again to treat me as if I don’t matter. I wish I’d met Chris Peterson. My first pp read, and the simplest, yet most important concept in our field. “Other people matter”
  4. I have extended myself toward the world at large. I foster kittens. I give away what it not necessary, and I help others by giving back and paying it forward
  5. I practice daily meditation, forgiveness and gratitude. But the most important key to my new found radical joy. I’ve settled into my own comfort zone and noetic happiness.

Create our own Personal Principles

When we invest in our own sense of purpose, find meaning in our lives in relation to others and savor the miracle that is our existence, we become whole human beings.

To let go of all expectation, while acknowledging our oneness with the universe, we are free. We become love. It is a state of consciousness, rather an emotion to be felt.

We don’t need to be in a relationship to experience love. When we open our mind to love itself, we have a singular goal. Do no harm. Followed by Beneficence and nonmaleficence, fidelity and responsibility, integrity, justice, and most of all, respect for people’s rights with dignity.



About the Author: Karen Henry [Daly], MA CRM owns Henry Healing as a holistic well-being practitioner and writer. She’s a former university professor and current scholar practicing the infusion of positive, existential and community psychology. “Wednesday is my Tuesday.”

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