“Happiness is a function of accepting what is. Love is a function of communication. Health is a function of participation. Self-expression is a function of responsibility” —Werner Erhard
Before Taking Positive Psychology, my thoughts about the course were: How can anyone teach me about Positivity. If I been trying to find it this long, it’s no way you can tell me how to feel or the steps to make it. I’m set in my ways. An Ah-Ha moment for me was learning about how Self- love and communication is good for the soul.
Opening the heart and soul
Positive Psychology opened my eyes to my deepest and forgotten moments. Many of us go through life trying to stay positive and happy, and we all think that we got the hang of it. However, I learned that NO one has it together. We all go through depression, self-hate and lack of communication. Each person handles it differently; some better than others, but we all go through pain and failures of our life. It’s okay to feel this way as long as you have the tools to turn it around into something positive and know that you have something to fight for. Self-love is usually thought to be easy but many times we look in the mirror and forget who we are. We lose our faith, hope, and our joy. We feel that no one loves us enough, and sometimes we feel that we do not deserve that love, but I came to realize that how can anyone love you when you don’t love yourself. Why should they love you? What do you have to love? The answer to this is EVERYTHING.
Look in the mirror and say I have everything. I am beautiful I am perfectly made. I have hopes, dreams, and love for me. Communication is love.
Communicating love to self
Once you can communicate to yourself, then you will be able to communicate who you are to others. Many of us hold in our hurt and just keep walking through life thinking we are good. “I love myself.” But who are you really trying to prove that to? It’s denial; it’s building each day. You put it in your box and then build a wall of destruction, but the destruction only harms you. I say let it out a cry, yell, scream and after hold your head up and say I’m okay; I will get back up and stand strong. When we start the process of self-hate, it’s because we forgot the tools to communicate to others and ourselves. We let our pain take over, and we lose sight of seeing who we are.
Love and strength from within flows outward
But it is time to open our eyes again and see that we are beautiful, strong, and intelligent and worth every moment we spend in this life. Don’t be embarrassed, talk to yourself, encourage yourself—love yourself, it’s good for your soul. Accept happiness, we deserve it. Communicate and express your feelings. Show your love by opening your heart and you will see the joy. Participate in life, get up and look at what is beautiful. See the beauty in the world see and the beauty in you. Finally, self-expression is your responsibility; no one can read your mind. Be mindful of others when you are expressing. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Love yourself as you would love someone else. Remember that if you love yourself and communicate to yourself, your soul will be free and happy once again.
About the Author: Miranda Sealy is a wonderful student at Chaminade. Her joys are her children and learning that she will become a positive and compassionate leader in whatever she does. She is a senior and will this spring. Above all, she promises to check in on her professor once in a while to share her new and wonderful journey.