“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball

Before taking the class I was thinking that this class is going to be about being “fufu happy”.  The kind of happy that is all about rainbows and unicorns.  The kind that would make everyone think that you are high on something.

Worthy of my own Love

An Ah-Ha moment for me was learning about…..Self-love.  I truly believe that when you love yourself, then everything else will come along.  You will be confident, compassionate, optimistic, just to name a few.  If there are things in your life that you want to change, if you love yourself enough to see that it’s worth the change, then it will be easier to be committed to change.  You can’t be confident in anything if you’re not confident in yourself.  I remember watching Iyanla: Fix my life.  It was about the rapper DMX.  He used drugs and while doing so he had hurt his family.  His son expressed that he wanted to feel like a priority in his dad’s life.  He gave his dad an ultimatum that it was either him or drugs.  He told his dad that this would be the last time that he would ask.  If it was a no, then he will not be part of his life.  I thought for sure he would pick his son, but he chose drugs.  I don’t understand why people turn to drugs, but I do believe that it has to do with self-love.  If you are confident in who you are, you won’t have to turn to things like drugs for fulfillment.  I guess I will never know because I am content in my life.

Self-love as a tool to Flourish in Life

Positive Psychology opened my eyes to… I was brought up as a Christian and I was brought up to be confident in who I am in God.  The thought that God doesn’t make mistakes and we have to accept the way God made us because we were created in His image.  This is a big subject for me.  I mentor young ladies and the biggest thing that I want them to understand is their self-worth in God.  If you don’t know who created you and why He created you, you won’t know your self-worth.  This course has taught me that things like habits can change.  We always say that it’s out of habit that we do things.  Sometimes they aren’t good habits; it can be smoking.  Even something like that can be changed.  If you love yourself enough to see that your health is more important than a cigarette then you can change.  If you really wanted to change, then you can…no matter how hard it is.

About the Author: Tiffany Balance aspires to become a Special Education teacher.  She has always wanted to become a teacher, but during her journey of becoming a teacher, she fell into a job that would change her life.  She was an aide helping in an FSC class and felt compassionate to work with special needs students.


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