“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit” Aristotle
Before taking Positive Psychology I thought the class would be about methods to become more positive and to remain positive through many situations. I felt this would be a great course for me to help identify ways to become positive in situations that I find difficult and to maintain my positivity when I feel weak.
Creating Habits and Finding the BoOST
Although I have been told that I am a very positive person, I know that it is just an image that I show others. I feel discouraged more often than I admit. Personally, I wanted to find a way to improve this. After starting this class, I realized, although we did cover methods to get and stay positive, there is so much more than I thought there would be. We looked at how individuals operate and look at the world. There were think tank dicussions about importance of how habits make an impact on life and how having some pessimism is a good thing (only if it is to help us maintain realistic goals). We gave examples of how to increase our confidence levels through the FLOW process and how to boost self-esteem. This class turned out to not only be more effective than I thought it would but that there is much more that goes into having positivity in life than I originally thought.
Positive Life – The Small Things Create the Whole
My Ah-Ha moment was learning about how much habits have an impact on my life. I always knew that there were things I did, that I felt were not helping me stay positive. As well, there were things I wished I would do to help me get positive. I just didn’t fully realize that these things were habits. I also didn’t realize that there were things I could do that were not explicitly positive or negative in nature to help me improve my positivity—FLOW.
Earlier in the course, a topic that stood out to me was “New Year’s Resolutions”. Everyone does them, but not everyone maintains them or is successful in them. From this, I learned that I must look at the smaller activities that I do hour-to-hour or day-to-day. This constant helps keep my motivation up. In turn, it helps me perform my activities that I want to become habits. This will then help me achieve my overall goal and lessen the extent of hopelessness or defeat when I feel I’m not making the progress I hope to be making.
Positive Psychology opened my eyes to methods to keep my positivity up. By making a change in my habits and attempting to pursue goals that I originally would have steered clear of because of a fear of failure, I can not only better myself, but become a positive influence for others.
About the author: Jennifer Fairlie is a student at Chaminade University as well as a Navy Reservist. She loves music, singing, and racing. In the future, she hopes to try building her own race car.