Tough Questions

They’re not so tough. The philosophical or decision making questions that we ask ourselves all the time. What is the meaning of life? What shall I eat for breakfast? To some, both of those questions are as equally profound as the the other. Whom shall I vote for? Why? Should I save or spend? Go or stay? Align myself with the “right” people? Or, “Are all people the right people, but it is myself that needs tending to?”

They are however, the questions that whisper to us in our vulnerable times as important as in our times of strength. To one person, the question of, “Will I breath today?” is more significant than a planet full of, “How do I become a billionaire?” We don’t always live our lives by reflecting, or even thinking about what we’re doing. Life is just … easy for some people. Demographics really don’t have anything to do with it. Or, do they?

Attitude and determination have everything to do with it. But we also have to stay realistic in our ability to wake up to the world around us. Sure, we can only truly master ourselves when we can mindfully choose how to react to someone or something. It’s equally important to recognize that we are humans and humans have flaws by design. There’s no question in that logic. It’s simply true.

Seek and ye shall find.

Some people plow through a project without any thought at all. They give in to their desires without any future thinking about consequences. They live in the moment, without regard for anything outside of their own realities.

When I see people reflecting the good in the world, my initial response is usually, ‘oh, this must be a good person’. That’s not always the case.

This isn’t a good thing, but it isn’t a bad thing either. It just is what it is.

So how do those of us who are deeper thinkers make it in this world of spontaneous or self-focused speed of light doers?

Slow Down

I ask too many questions. I analyze most things before jumping in. I wasn’t always like this. Not before I became a parent. It makes me wonder.

The key?

It’s not about ‘tough’ questions. It’s about asking good ones.

I stopped saying, ‘I’ when asking all the questions.

When we invite the idea that others are part of our collective consciousness, we no longer view the world, or the questions we ask as important without the understanding that someone else will be part of all answers.

Of course, that’s with a bit of a twist and there are no absolutes.

We do have to take care of ourselves first. That’s so obvious, it’s a cliche. It’s also a paradox. We live in the world as individuals wanting desperately to ‘be’, and yet, we already ‘are’ so, what’s everybody looking for?

Contentment? Is happiness enough? Joy? the litany of lists, pillars, steps or wheels in our house that have become the measurement of our moments?


Just perhaps, and even as researchers, we are driving ourselves mad with weighing and measuring life instead of just living it?

Peace & Love !

About the Author: Karen Henry, MA CRM owns Henry Healing as a holistic well-being practitioner and writer. She’s a former university professor and current scholar practicing the infusion of positive, existential and community psychology.


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