The attraction of thinking a thing into manifestation is very alluring, isn’t it? One philosophy tells us to think positive thoughts. Another? Let all thoughts go. The finite nuances between what our thoughts are and are not have been debated throughout time. I am in tandem, fascinated with the idea of attraction and like the rest of psychology, at a cross roads with the new age, old school wisdom of thought as an entity unto itself.


One of my favorite professors once joked that, “your delimitation is my dissertation”. Only, it wasn’t actually a joke. It was a great foundation for our research. We made t-shirts.

Some are grounded in here and now; prove to disprove, science. Others,  appreciative of the power of ancient philosophies, religions, and schools of ideas. I was also a believer that some things happen, just because they do, while other things are beyond our control.

This blog-trot through the universe isn’t necessarily a debate into what is or is not, but instead, a reflection on how much time we spend on thinking.

Instead of just … being. Or, ‘doing’ for that matter.

We get stuck on something, we call a coach, or a therapist, or a minister, priest, professor or parent. It depends on our worldview, cultural attachment to problem-solving. We want something, we attempt to attract it into our lives through the law of attraction, or praying, or focusing on it, or bargaining with a higher power.

Ironically, we also disbelieve or argue with others who don’t agree with us. Humans are all flawed. That’s the attractive thing about us.


To attract something into our lives, we have to want it with our whole heart. But this is true for any goal that we dream up. If we want something badly enough, we’re going to find a way to make it happen.

Attraction to something offers us the rare universal truth of one of the core commonalities of humankind. They say we can’t help who we’re attracted to. We can make the conscious effort of going after that thing with all our focus. Or, we can regret not trying with all our focus.

Valentine’s Day is coming up this month. Attraction to desire is a huge selling point. It’s also a reminder to help us realize what we are attracted to. Not just romantically, but also in our lives in general. Are we attracted to our careers, our friends, our social life or communities? Are we ultimately satisfied with the life that manifested while we were busy with life itself?

Shift our attention back toward that thing that we love, then take that first step toward creating it.

Barriers, roadblocks and excuses? Of course! But then, if we can delimitate our own lives, we can also decide what works, and what no longer serves. A self inventory of sorts. We can and should be attracted to our own lives. Fall in love with self first. Not in the way Narcissus did, but in the way that shows us how to live a whole, healthy life.




About the Author: Karen Henry [Daly], MA CRM owns Henry Healing as a holistic well-being practitioner and writer. She’s a former university professor and current scholar practicing the infusion of positive, existential and community psychology.



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