You may not be able to control every situation and its outcome, but you can control your own attitude and how you deal with it.
Before taking Positive Psychology my thoughts about the course were: that positive psychology is about thinking “happy thoughts”.
An Ah-Ha moment for me was learning about…..how much control I have of MY happiness. People experience hard times in their life on a daily basis. Four years ago, I thought my world was destroyed. My husband lay in the hospital bed, lifeless. He suffered his first stroke at the age of 38 years old. He could no longer talk or communicate with me like we were used to. He suffered from aphasia, which is a condition that short circuits the brain and does not allow the person to communicate freely through oral or written communication. Two days later, he suffered a second stroke that left him paralyzed on his right side. My husband could no longer talk and now walk. I cried and cried as I sat in that hospital room as he lay in the bed. What was I going to do? He was the strongest man I knew and my superman was now disabled.
Using the power of self-motivation and control in tough times
Positive psychology is about being able to control your thoughts, feelings and emotions to find the strength to get better. I had to learn quickly that I was in control. I was in control of my thoughts and actions that could help my husband get better. By understanding how strong my thoughts, feelings and emotions were, I was able to help him get better. He depended on me to eat, bathe, walk and dress himself. I will not lie and tell you it was easy. Nothing about taking care of my husband was easy. He was depressed and felt bad that I was caring for him. But this is what made us stronger. He worked hard to pick himself up. He worked hard to walk again. He worked hard to talk again. And before we knew it, he was doing things on his own again. He is still unable to feel on the right side of his body, but he can move. He can walk, talk, feed himself and bathe himself. He is no longer depended on me, but I will always be there for him.
Finding new strengths in myself and loving life even more
Positive Psychology is about believing in yourself and knowing that I can overcome the obstacles. My husband is my hero. He has taught me that the mind is the strongest muscle. When you put your mind to something, nothing can stop you, BUT YOU!! He has been the driving factor in me finishing school. He has been there for me when I was tried of doing my homework or driving to class. He is my positive psychology. We could have easily given up and thrown the towel in, but we decided to fight and continue fighting. I do my best everyday to show gratitude and appreciation for everything on a daily basis because I know how quickly everything can be taken away from you. Don’t give up. Don’t give in. Keep fighting and you will be victorious. Nothing can stop a man or woman who will NOT quit!!
Positive Psychology opened my eyes to…living a life of significance rather than being significant.
About the author: Aulii Mafi is a student at Chaminade University. She loves learning about psychology and how she can help others. She hopes to be a mental health therapist in the future and make a difference in others lives.
‘We are the Positive Psychology People’