Staying positive when life throws you a curve ball is not always easy. And I was reminded of a video I made a few months ago and maybe you can relate to it in some way. Maybe you can laugh yourself a bridge?

Where it all started to make sense

Imagine just how bad it must have been that I chose to leave my 2 small children when I left their father and divorced him. I left them all alone in a country where I had no say, no choice, no voice. I could have waded through that feeling of devastation. That deep sense of depression. And the feeling of total loss.

I could have walked along the banks using my tears to fill the river but instead I chose to laugh myself a bridge and cross over it.

Laughter has really changed my life and I would love to share my story with you today.

3 Bridges to help you

1. Laugh yourself a bridge to better self-esteem

This is something to do with acceptance and self-love. Even though things may be falling apart around you, you can chose to love and accept yourself unconditionally. We all make mistakes or have ‘lessons’ as I call them. It’s best not to dwell on them, rather find out how to overcome it. Once you remove judgment from yourself and others you will feel a weight lifted off your shoulders.

I felt guilty for years about leaving my kids, but when I realised I did everything in my power to get to see them, support them and love them I was ok. Things didn’t work out the way I had hoped but I grew resilient kids.

2. Laugh yourself a bridge to face your fears and improve your mental health

What is fear anyway, False Evidence Appearing Real. Have you ever feared something and stewed on it for ages and built it up to be this huge mountain of something only to find that actually it wasn’t that bad at all. Laughter will help you ease the nerves, oxygenate the brain to think clearer and help you push forward. It’s the over thinking and stewing over a problem that causes our mental health issues.

I made sure I did the best I could do for my kids and they know that and love me for it. And for that I am grateful.

3. Laugh yourself a bridge to be the best you possible

So many times we feel stuck, and this could be in a relationship, in a business or even a decision or idea. Laughter actually makes you more productive, creative and innovative so you will be able to come up with a solution to any ‘problem’ and you really can be happy.

Laughter helped me find my happy through many different situations and I would love you to try it. It gets you thinking, laughing and empowering yourself to be the best you possible. Be who your really deserve to be.

As I wrote in my blog about Banish the Blues When You Get Bad News, you will see that life continues to throw things at me. Sometimes I still cry a little and add to the river, but building bridges is becoming an automatic procedure now because I have practiced it.

If you are going through a hard time right now, I encourage you to laugh yourself a bridge and cross over it now, and I will be right there with you all the way.

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