I give myself permission to ‘be’. I also give myself permission ‘not to be’. It’s not really a question. It’s a must! Hard limits on what we will or will not allow in our lives. Soft limits on what we welcome in to our experiences are part of the whole.
When we shift our focus toward the moral of our story, we become a better version of ourselves. We become a different version of the ‘self’. Each of us experiences our own lives but then, we also get tangled up on how we believe others should be living. The world does not need our comments.
It’s never easy to just stay in our own hard truth, but that is where we thrive.
Humans have always followed rituals, and trends that dictate who we choose to become. We don’t realize just how much power we hand over to the ‘group’ just to be, ‘liked’.
We’re born with a set point in our personalities. Take happiness for example. We all know now that happiness has a set point at birth. A rather large percentage actually. The rest? It’s up to our conditions. We grow up under a lot of pressure to be a certain way. Sometimes, we gladly chose to stay true to how we grew up. Sometimes, it paralyzes us with someone else’s idea of who we are supposed to be. We don’t realize that we get to give ourselves permission to be whomever we choose.
We make contracts with ourselves. We please our parents, or wear certain clothes to defy them; rather than making life choices for what we do want, we stay stuck in what we don’t.
Why? At what point do we get stuck? When do we stop giving ourselves permission?
Now, more than ever, we are on the crest of a new era. We are rising to our own voice. We are becoming consciously aware of who we are in relation to the rest of the world. We get to choose who we are. The brave follow through. The consciously aware celebrate our choices.
- To live comfortably in your own version of who you’re supposed to be is one of the greatest gifts any human being can give yourself.
- To live in celebration of who you are, as you are, is the greatest act of whole person mental health we can achieve.
- To give ourselves permission to just … breath in the world and breath out the love of that life, is the biggest adventure of them all.
“Do no harm” is a common, sometimes misinterpreted concept. We forget to include ourselves in that nurturing concept. It’s entirely up to us to find the inner strength to be outwardly alive in the way we wish. This, to me, is the noetic nomad finding home.
About the Author: Karen Henry [Daly], MA CRM owns Henry Healing as a holistic well-being practitioner and writer. She’s a former university professor and current scholar practicing the infusion of positive, existential and community psychology. Wednesday is my Tuesday.
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