My never ending quest for all things begins and ends with my life’s playlist. At the moment, I’m listening to the full playlist from the movie, Pride and Prejudice. When I write a novel, the first step is to create a playlist as a guide for the scenes in my head. The list often changes as the characters develop, but there is music for all of it.

This emulates our lives, doesn’t it?

We all have a preferred playlist in our heart’s mind. Even for those who don’t find themselves as moved by music as others. Nature herself offers us a playlist. Birds sing to us. The ocean lulls us into a deep sense of peace. A walk in the woods offers us a soothing reprieve from the loud we experience in our day to day bustle.


Some of us need more quiet than others. Some of us cherish it. The sweet, simple sound of silence. We can hear our own thoughts in our silence. We can tap in to our own emotions when the outside world whispers in time with our heartbeat.

For many, this is a reprieve. For others, a terrifying trust fall into memory. Memories, perhaps that we don’t wish to replay. Replaying our memories is one of the strengths in healing, yet, we as a global society have turned our thoughts into a responsibility geared toward the positive. As if our negatives are somehow less important.

The truth is, those of us who know the power of sound also know to be consciously aware of what we listen to. People who use music as therapy, know how to invoke certain neurological responses to the sounds, or sights that help us to feel happier.

Life’s Playlist

To co-create our own version of the universe, we must focus on what we need to hear in order to live our best life. Our aesthetic world offers us the tune we dance to, the vision with which to see, and the tastes of our cultural values. Without our senses in vivid action, we merely react to our world.

When we wish to live a whole, loving, joyful life, we must be able to tap into our own preferences. Not, those of someone else. We appreciate sounds that remind us of who we are. Just as in the novels we write, or the movies we attend, there is an emotional connection to the sound of our thoughts.

At the same time, there are people who are deaf to the sounds of other cultures, or turned off by the sound of what an opposing viewpoint is. We can become a culture of one-sidedness if we don’t open our mind to learn about the musical gift of listening.

In coaching, in teaching, in writing and in discovering, we actively listen not just what we hear, but also what we see. Our playlist involves the love of life itself. It’s our backdrop to the world itself. Embrace  your playlist as the guide to your universe.



About the Author: Karen Henry [Daly], MA CRM owns Henry Healing as a holistic well-being practitioner and writer. She’s a former university professor and current scholar practicing the infusion of positive, existential and community psychology. Wednesday is my new Tuesday.



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