Have you ever experienced a money-moment of clarity? That moment when you’re doing something for both money and experience, and they ‘forget’ to pay you. Others doing the same job say, “oh! do we get paid to do this? I have no idea how much. It’s for fun. I didn’t even notice.”

That’s such an old school privilege-concept. OR, it’s from someone who thinks it’s embarrassing to talk about money, even if they’re talking to someone making the same amount.

As a girl, I was taught not to talk about money. We, as a society were taught not to discuss money with others, and to never tell anyone how much we were making. Then, young women started comparing notes. That’s how we uncovered the wage gap. The socio-cultural financial gaps.

Money Matters.

Women in particular need to change that dialog if we’re ever going to be the boss. I watched Shark Tank. They love to talk about money. Warren Buffet has no fear of talking about money. Oprah knows the value of the dollar because she used to have none.

It’s not cute, cool, or chic to pretend money doesn’t matter. It clearly matters. Money is power. More than that. Money is freedom. It is not everything, but it’s not nothing either.

Only someone with lots of it and a strong need to show that off will say, “I have no idea how much money I make doing this job that pays for your gas and milk”.

When the large pharmaceutical companies produce a drug that can save lives, they know what that drug costs down to the penny. They also know to the penny how much profit they can make.

The same is true for a baker, an investor, a banker. We know the value of a dollar, so to pretend or actually not care about money is not only a sign of financial boasting but it’s a sign of vulnerability (fear?).

Illusion of financial health?

We are taught to appear to be better off than we are in order to be accepted by those more privileged than us. We sugar coat our financial well-being

In positive psychology and other fields that study subjective well-being, we know that poverty can’t bring full happiness (I HOPE the researchers know that) and extreme wealth can’t bring full happiness.

We know that the salary that hovers around the $70K-$80K a year brings the most happiness. Slide that scale up or down to suit the life style, the community, the country, and the mentality of stakeholders.

When we respect and love ourselves, we begin to rethink everything. Including our income and the lifestyle that goes along with it.

Money is not everything, but it’s not nothing either.

A fully confident human being will know the value of a dollar, but they’ll also be very comfortable talking about their respect for that dollar and all that goes with it.

Respecting our whole person is the ultimate goal of feeling complete. Happiness branches off of feeling balanced and whole.

Know your worth. Not just the physical, emotional and spiritual. Know your financial worth. Financial confidence is one of the most liberating feelings in our human experience.


About the Author: Karen Henry [Daly], MA CRM owns Henry Healing as a holistic well-being practitioner and writer. She’s a former university professor and current scholar practicing the infusion of positive, existential and community psychology.



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