Do you frequently feel stuck in life? Perhaps you’re often unhappy, restless, anxious or fearful? You may experience a sense of discomfort, a lack of meaning and fulfilment, or you feel lethargic and lost. If so, you’re not alone!
Many people I know experience these feelings – me included. Sometimes they are fleeting, other times they can hang around for a while and we can end up sinking further into them or scrambling around for jobs, people and experiences to try and ease them.
What do these feelings mean?
From what I see and have experienced, they can often come from a lack of purpose, meaning and direction in life. Or, the living of a purpose, meaning and direction that is not aligned to who you really are and what you really want.
So what do we do about this?
- Option 1: Do nothing
- Option 2: Carry on scrambling sporadically for things to ease yourself
- Option 3: Get clear on your true vision, purpose, meaning and direction
Let’s talk about option 3: Getting clear on your true vision
I‘m talking about YOUR vision. Not that of your parents, spouse, kids, teachers, the media, the government, friends, the neighbour, the pet… YOURS.
Believe it or not, you have the right to choose your vision. And you have the ability to make it a reality.
If you struggle to know what you really want out of life, remember that it’s not about finding one vision for the rest of your life. Visions can change frequently, just focus on what pulls your right now. A vision also requires us to expand our horizons and look in directions that we may not have previously looked, so being open minded is key.
Answer these questions to help you get clear on YOUR vision
Who do you want to be (this is different from ‘what do you want to do’)?
What would you do if you weren’t afraid of failing at it?
What things that inspire and interest you do you want to experience frequently?
Which of your strengths do you want to use every day?
What kind of people and relationships do you want around you?
What places do you want to be in?
What impact do you want to have on people around you, or even the wider world?
What experiences do you want to have, personally and professionally?
What health and wealth do you want to have?
What do you want to be known and remembered for?
How do you want to feel about your life?
Perhaps you have some more questions of your own.
A lot of these answers won’t come from the conditioned mind, so meditate or do anything that helps clear your mind. Think outside the box, remove your limitations, be curious and don’t be afraid to ‘get it wrong’. Just follow what inspires and excites you.
Whatever comes up, write it down, draw it, have fun with it and be creative, you could even collage it as a vision board.
Now don’t just shove it in the drawer and forget about it!
Think about an organisation that has a vision statement – they write it everywhere, they stick it up on walls, they make strategic objectives, plans and take action on things that deliver that vision.
I’m not saying you should plan your life to the nth degree, that could suck the fun and magic out of life! But, the point is that a vision is not manifested by accident, it’s manifested through clarity, commitment and focussed action.
Small steps each day toward your vision are critical, whilst always remaining open to the fact that as we grow and change our vision may also grow and change – after all, life is not lived in a straight line. But at least we now have some meaning, purpose and direction to focus on.
And now we can replace lethargy with energy, anxiety with excitement, stuck-ness with flow and instead of feeling lost, you can now see the path on which to walk.
Your true vision does not exist within the confines of your fears and limitations, it’s always found outside of that.
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