We do not learn, grow or manifest our destiny by expecting other people to make our lives easier. NOBODY else can MAKE us feel, or do, or think, or BE anything that we are not already believing for ourselves. Admittedly, this is one of the harder concepts to accept.

There is power in knowing that we can do something ourselves. The best teachers know how to show someone where the light is. The best students know how to absorb that light as part of their acquired knowledge.

When we give it to them, do they learn? How many times have you been given all the answers? Did you learn anything or just do well on the ‘test of life’. From Aristotle to modern day scientists and everyone in between, we teach, understand and know that when we take ownership of our own discovery, we more profoundly learn our life lessons.

We have to do what’s right for our lives. We may have to slow down or speed up depending on where we are (metaphorically speaking).

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” ~ Nelson Mandela

To take ownership of all events in our lives, we have to own up to a great deal of fear. Oh, it shows in a dozen other emotions, but the bottom line is, we’re afraid that others won’t understand us. We’re afraid that if we don’t come across as the ‘all-powerful, all-knowing Oz’, we won’t be valued or trusted or understood by the world. But then, when we do wrong, we don’t always own up to that either. Some tell themselves a story of ‘why’ so that they can feel justified in their actions.

The clarity comes when we take ownership of all of it. The good life. The bad life. The meaning and yes, the purpose.

There is a whole group of people who refer to themselves as a network of angels. Yet, those same people will gossip, disrespect, disregard, and dismiss those they do not think are worthy of kindness. They don’t take ownership of how they treat all humans… and they do not have love for those they help. They are standing over the humble, not with them.

And then, there is a group of people who help at their own personal sacrifice. They grew an entire business by leading with love. They sit at the feet of those they help with gratitude for being allowed to help.

Each group sees themselves in the same light. Some take ownership of their reality, while others mask their truth with owning only what they can handle.

I’ll leave with this. Ownership is an art. One that proves our own mastery of understanding of ourselves.

Victor Frankl was right, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

About the author: Karen Henry-Daly is a transitions life coach, writer and speaker. She specializes in working with people who want to create positive changes and savor who they want to be. Her full bio can be found at:  wings13326.wix.com/wings13326#!about-karen-e-m-henry-ma/c11k

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