When life is good, we can find many reasons to be cheerful, we find many moments or micro moments of happiness and satisfaction and we smile. That’s all great, but what happens if into that mix something comes along to steal your smile?

We’ve all no doubt come across life situations which cause us to feel unhappy, this can be temporary but it may feel more chronic. I’m going to call this circumstantial depression.

When depression strikes

When depression strikes, particularly when it’s roots are founded in circumstances beyond our control, it can erode our ability even to perform everyday tasks.

When you look at a sink full of dishes, but can’t muster up the willpower to care that you don’t want to clean them, this is in itself a form of depression. Other ways it can manifest itself is in not caring how you look, not sleeping well, not eating nutritious or beneficial foods, or even not wanting to eat at all. We may also avoid people, situations or activities we once enjoyed.

The antidote

So what’s the antidote or repair kit for this?

See every small task you complete as a victory, from the washing up, through to getting up and washed if it’s gone that far.

Remember to notice every time you experience a micro moment of happiness, and even if you have to force yourself, try to inject some form of positivity into every day. Smile, because it’s a universal language, smell the coffee, or the roses or whatever it is you like the smell of, and savour that.

Build resilience

Resilience can be like a muscle, which when trained right, builds and grows. So every time you achieve something, from the smallest task to the harder ones, acknowledge it, celebrate it, and build on it.

There are many times across the lifespan that we will experience lows, it’s inevitable, how we handle those lows, and also how we handle and bank the highs are instrumental in recovery from depression.

Try making a list of three things every evening that you managed to achieve that day. If things feel really bad that will possibly include things like brushing your teeth or washing, or in milder depression it will be things like getting outside, doing something you enjoy or doing something just for you.

In the words of an unknown wise person, this too shall pass.

About the author: To find out more about Caralyn Cox MAPP, please click here.


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