How to Amplify PP Practice

How to Amplify PP Practice

How to Amplify PP Practice I have recently become poignantly aware of how practicing and living not just one of the positive psychology principles in isolation, but combining and blending a handful of exercises (what Martin Seligman calls a ‘package of positive...

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Say Yes To Stress

Say Yes To Stress

Say Yes to Stress. Your brain learns from stress. In the hours after a stressful experience, your brain builds new wiring so you can avoid similar threats in the future. This is the survival mechanism we’ve inherited from our animal ancestors. Stanford Professor Kelly...

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The Art of Alone

The Art of Alone

The Art of Alone Many people feel, and the media supports the belief that we are supposed to be part of a romantic relationship unit. Psychology has long proposed that people not in a relationship fare much less well than those in a relationship, and even lifespan has...

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The resilience well spring

The resilience well spring

Resilience Emerges From Acknowledged Emotional Wounds Resilience emerges from acknowledged emotional wounds like water appears from a warm spring pool. When we experience grief in life, we often feel that we must suppress this and be seen to be coping. I want to take...

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Escape from work, through work

Escape from work, through work

Escape from work, through work. Most of us at some point will have taken a day or evening to gain some TV relaxation therapy. I'm referring to the type of evening you approach thinking it is what you need, one where you don't plan to watch anything in particular. I've...

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Same, same, but different

Same, same, but different

Same, same, but different. They are not like us. In fact, I hope they never are. For some weeks since first arriving in Cambodia there has been one question that has plagued me - what is it that makes Cambodian people smile? After intensive internal debate, as well as...

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Creating an A* Life

Creating an A* Life

Creating an A* Life. Most people get stuck in what I call a C+ life. In school report terms, you ‘could do better’ and, for many, life can become a bit mundane. The solution isn’t to lower your sights. In fact, I’d argue the opposite! Too many people settle for C+ in...

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Positive Chi = Vitality

Positive Chi = Vitality

Positive Chi = Vitality. What is Chi? What is its link with vitality and why do we need it? How can having a positive relationship with Chi help us thrive through these times of uncertainty and opportunity? Why when we do something we love it seems to give us energy,...

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The Wednesday Tea

The Wednesday Tea

The Wednesday Tea And if a group of 43 very old women became integrated and useful to their community…? Often we hear that it is "normal" that old people are alone... that they "do not care about loneliness"... We also hear some old people say that from time to time...

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The Benefits of Failure

The Benefits of Failure

The Benefits of Failure: Why the correct answer is not always the best answer. Failure, it is a word associated with such negative connotations, it is often linked with fear and anxiety. This is such a waste as failure has unlimited potential to help us grow. Through...

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Positive Psychology: PERMA

Positive Psychology: PERMA

As a counselor, I heard many clients say “I want to be happier, I truly do; I just don’t know what I need to do to get there”.  We assume that there is one magic tool that will make us happy in all aspects of our life, but in reality we need to flip that triangle. It...

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Re-wiring your brain to positive

Re-wiring your brain to positive

Re-wiring your brain to positive Happiness is not the belief that we don’t need to change – it’s the realisation that we can – Shawn Achor [1] Up until the latter half of the twentieth century, accepted wisdom in psychological circles was that our brains’ wiring is...

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Forgiveness – Part 2

Forgiveness – Part 2

Forgiveness Part 2 In the previous “forgiveness” blog I discussed the process and the influencing factors that make forgiveness such a difficult road in some cases; it is not hard to understand why strength is needed to move us through the journey. The depth to which...

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Forgiveness – Part 1

Forgiveness – Part 1

Forgiveness - Part 1 You may have heard comments like “forgive and forget”, or “just don’t worry about it, be happy; move on”. When it comes to matters of the heart and of the person, it is not always so easy to do that even when we know carrying those negative...

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Communities and Families

Communities and Families

Communities and families are an entwined part of a person’s well-being; each thread is meaningful unto itself while being important to the other threads it connects with. Similarly is the case with families; the threads that bind can strengthen through care and...

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When I die

When I die

I have been fortunate that my life has been enhanced by the principles of positive psychology and I would like this to be reflected at my death and beyond. I don't really believe in the 'afterlife' as such but I recognise that we all live on through the genes we pass...

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Developing Temperance

Developing Temperance

CORE VIRTUE - TEMPERANCE - Protecting against excess I.  Forgiveness and Mercy: This strength involves forgiving those who have wronged or offended us. Forgiveness entails accepting the shortcomings of others, giving people a second chance, and putting aside the...

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VIA- Virtues in Action

VIA- Virtues in Action

The VIA Character Strength survey was rolled out from the labors of Dr. Christopher Peterson and Dr. Martin Seligman. The VIA, Virtues in Action survey is a 240 question survey that is a classification of positive human strengths, opposing the depiction of human...

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Broaden and Build Theory

Broaden and Build Theory

The Broaden and Build Theory of positive emotions is the brain-child of evolutionary psychologist Barbara Fredrickson 1,2 .The theory describes how the 10 positive emotions of joy, serenity, amusement, awe, pride, gratitude, interest, inspiration, hope, and love are...

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Mental Health and Meditation

Mental Health and Meditation

For the purpose of this blog, it is necessary to clarify a few common myths that are associated with Positive Psychology to help remove the notion that this field of science resembles that of a bouncy cheerleading group and couldn’t possibly be of any value to those...

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Strengths

Strengths

What is a strength? Well it’s something we’re good at isn’t it? Well, yes AND no, a strength is more than just something that we’re good at. A strength can also be carrying out a task that comes naturally to us and at the same time provides us with satisfaction when...

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Positive Emotions

Positive Emotions

Positive Emotions have been extensively studied by evolutionary psychologist Barbara Fredrickson. Their role in the lives of our ancestors, she argues, was one which fuelled survival. The evolutionary benefits of negative emotions in evoking the ‘fight or flight’...

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Optimism vs. Pessimism

Optimism vs. Pessimism

Just from looking at the title, you are probably assuming that in the Positive Psychology world optimism is a main-stay in the diet. Yes, optimism does have benefits related to well-being. However, we also know that it can be overdone and that pessimism rightly has a...

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Flourishing

Flourishing

This topic, above all others, is the most difficult to explain and to do broad justice to the actual sense of meaning. Why on might ask; simply because flourishing can only be evaluated and described by the individual. In his book Flourish, Dr. Martin Seligman brings...

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The Art of Positive Savouring

The Art of Positive Savouring

In the world of Positive Psychology, savouring is best described by the model created by Fred Bryant and Joseph Veroff that defines savouring as “noticing and appreciating the positive aspects of life – the positive counterpart to coping. Savoring is more than...

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Starting A New Job

Starting A New Job

Starting a new job. It is often the start of a new year that people think about their career and moving on to pastures new. If you do take the plunge and take up a new job, you may be interested in how I took a strengths-focused approach to a past job transition. I...

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Loosies

Loosies

Loosies - Love and Hope Does love help us to find hope? This is a story about love. For anyone who loves a good romance against the odds, this is one to watch. Although it has been rated only with a 19% score in Rotten Tomatoes, I really enjoyed this film....

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