“Dear you, make peace with the mirror and watch the reflection change.” unkonwn
Venturing into the unknown
Before Taking Positive Psychology my thoughts about the course were: Positive psychology is going to teach me about meditation and how to keep a positive mindset in the midst of a chaotic world. The course name stays true to the content that was discussed, by continuing to teach me new ways in which to maintain a positive outlook on life. While the course did not ignore negative thoughts, behaviors or habits, it gave me a chance to face them and learn how to grow from them. I didn’t realize how many aspects went into positive psychology. It isn’t as simple as think happy thoughts and you will be a happy person, it is hard, so incredibly hard. This class has given me the tools I need for so many different circumstances to come out on top and know what it is to truly be happy.
Learning about self-love
An Ah-Ha moment for me was learning about self-love. Loving yourself for who you are, your strengths, and your weaknesses is a very powerful and fulfilling thing. Coming to terms with what you are capable and incapable of allows you to set your goals and dreams within a realistic and attainable parameter. This in turn allows for more success and even more love for your self. First you have to love and accept yourself so you have a positive basis for growth.
It became meaningful to me
Positive Psychology opened my eyes to… This has always been a difficult topic for me. I was never truly happy with myself and who I was. I always thought that I was a good person, pretty, determined, got good grades, worked hard but it never felt like enough. There was always someone else who had it better, was skinnier, prettier, and more successful. However learning how powerful self-love is opened my eyes to how damaging I was becoming to my family and myself. By learning to acknowledge my strengths and what I bring to the table I was able to see that self-love can make or break you and your relationship with the world and those closest to you. I decided to change the way I thought about myself so I wrote a letter to my husband, in detail about how I saw myself. It wasn’t pretty and I cried as I wrote it. As I read the words to myself I was in pain to know those were my true thoughts of myself, how could I have thought so lowly of someone capable of so much love. I ended the letter with a thank you to my husband and a new goal of mine, to myself the way he loves me, non-judging and unconditionally.
About the author: Courtney Mattina is a mother of a beautiful little girl and little boy on the way. She is a psychology major at Chaminade University and will be graduating next winter. She loves life in Hawaii and enjoys her job in the Coast Guard , learning to surf, stand-up paddle and exploring the island.