Thinking something else? I’ve been stuck in a thought rut. A thinking loop. A problem brain, rather than a solution brain. The same thoughts have dominated the inside of my head for far too long.
Have you ever gotten stuck in your own life?
Sometimes, we become comfortable in our comfort zone. We know it. We get used to it. We even believe that somehow, we will be able to change what we don’t like while continuing to do exactly what we’re doing that we don’t like.
I forgive myself for not knowing what I didn’t know when I didn’t know it. However, I woke myself up and scolded myself for knowing what needs to happen in order to be truly whole in my pursuit of happiness. But of course, I’ve been doing very little about it. Until now.
There was a great book about a man who though brilliant in helping other people, realized that he didn’t like himself one day. It’s called Shift. Unfortunately, it was such a great book, written some time ago, the world has flooded the market with his idea of shifting one small part of ourselves at a time. He ate a lot of oranges. He was in public relations. If you can remember his name, please share with me, or post in the comments. I loved it. I also began to look at my life and realize a few things.
That book wasn’t about the field of psychology, but the field certainly has gone in that direction. It was about waking up to our own potential. It was about not only shifting our perception of the world, but shifting our perception of ourselves. It was about facing ourselves in our truth. That silent whispered knowledge that none of us wants to admit to, but have to if we truly want to change.
In order to change, we have to own our part in everything. We also have to say, ‘enough’. Remember that scene in Love Actually (one of my favorite movies of all time). The man hopelessly in love with his best friend’s new wife? He finally stopped torturing himself, told her, then … walked away. As he walked away, he whispered, ‘enough’. He went on to find true happiness. The sort that only Eudaimonics would understand. He had to let go of the past and present in order to shift toward what was best for his soul.
When we continue to search for the part of the world that best suits us, in our needs, our wants, our desires, and our soul attachment to purpose, then, we find our perfect fit. In that discovery, our thoughts will be fully charged, fully healthy and fully alive.
We will know love for love’s sake. Not romantic love, but self love. Shift our thinking. Have conscious conversations with our own thoughts and choose them to reflect who we want to be, not who we currently are. That adventure is our birthright.
Peace and Love,
About the Author: Karen Henry [Daly], MA CRM owns Henry Healing as a holistic well-being practitioner and writer. She’s a former university professor and current scholar practicing the infusion of positive, existential and community psychology.
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