Clarity is…. gentle.
There comes a time in life when a person simply leans into the fluidity of the moment. They gentle their soul to the realizations of who and what they have become. They embrace their reality. Settle into love of their own truth. They become gentler with others. Gentler with themselves.
People are critical of those who share of themselves. It makes them uncomfortable. It shows that you are stronger for being able to share your truth, without concern of how much they know of it. In a world flooded with unreal reality, it’s up to us to quiet our own minds.
When we live in a world full of critics, judgment, self-doubt and fear, we have to find our ability to be gentle with ourselves. Sometimes, being kind to one’s self is all we have. Any psychology graduate student, helping professional or hair dresser knows that people are desperate to tell someone, something about themselves. It’s easy to listen. It’s harder to actively listen.
The universe is never going to like one person. You may be that person. We’re all that person somethings.
Be gentle with yourself.
There will be people who will love you and people who will not like you at all. That’s okay. To both. It’s okay if you’ve made waves, created a vibe that others don’t understand or agree with or even like. Some of you will be subjected to harm. I’m sorry if you are. I know how much it hurts.
Empathy is a powerful healing tool.
When someone starts over in their lives, they are going to meet some turmoil. This is particularly true for people in recovery, people in hardship, people in transitions.
So is the life lesson that others who are seemingly nice to others can be so overtly cruel to you for no apparent reason, other than, they won’t share their reasons, or their reasons are missing a justification, or they are justified and you need to own it, but may not be able to take it back.
This is the moment you move forward.
Whatever ‘it’ is, be gentle with yourself. Healthy people can be filled with fear of not being liked, or not fitting in. So much of our social media has been about non-productive negativity and first world problems.
Too much time is wasted on worrying about the realities of other people.
When we are gentle and kind to ourselves, the slings and arrows of others aren’t nearly as painful or poignant. If someone wants to harm you, they are investing in their own hatred or head. It really has nothing to do with you.
If you are invested in owning your own decisions, reality, and happiness, you are giving your best ally the best gift anyone can give. To gentle your soul, you are allowing peace into your thoughts. With peace and calm, you are creating that life you want for yourself.
Clarity is knowing that you are your own best gentle friend.
About the Author: Karen Henry Daly is a positive psychology practitioner, blogger, author and speaker. She is a coach/consultant who writes both fiction and non-fiction about loving one’s best life, thriving, recovery and post traumatic thriving. www.positiveaging.coach
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