“You had the power all along, my dear.” –Glenda the Good Witch
Preparing for the journey
Before Taking Positive Psychology I just began my “real journey” to change my thoughts to change my world. I say “real journey” because for the first time in my life, I truly made the commitment to effect change in my life. For most of my life my negative thoughts were on automatic, I was fearful of change and the unknown. Significant life events can turn your world upside down and can also compromise your health. When realities hit hard, they can either push you down further or give you the extraordinary strength to persevere. My child gave me my strength and motivation and I chose to persevere. I spent a lot of time in solitude and aloneness and found renewal and peace instead of loneliness. I disconnected to reconnect. At my lowest point, I gained mindfulness, strength, and resiliency. I found a renewed strength to focus on being a good mother, do well in school, and to live a healthier lifestyle. I found healing in my yoga practice.
Reconnecting by disconnecting
My body grew more open to new poses and my mind welcomed differences – I learned the art of finding my mind and body connection and it was truly amazing. My Ah-Ha moment…page 16 of Habits and Happiness, Pobric states “Habits never get deleted, the neural pathways established as a result of the habits we develop never get deleted. Those pathways are always there for us in case we need to go back and use those same routes again.” It’s where I’ve been stuck for a good portion of my life. Pobric says, “the best way to change existing habits is to replace them with new ones.” This further validated what I couldn’t see for so long, how powerful our thoughts and habits are and how we can “choose” to change them if we mindfully work at it every single day. I can recognize that if I beat myself up every day with the same bad habits I will always have the power to change the channel. I can take a different path and “choose” to make new habits.
Finding self-love along the way
Positive Psychology opened my eyes to see that happiness isn’t what happens to us or circumstance-related but happiness is mindfully participating and choosing our thoughts, behavior, and actions every single day! The goal isn’t to be happy all the time, but to be equipped to be able to pick ourselves back up whenever we fall every single time. Our habits, our thoughts, our behavior – it’s all within our control. Hence, the quote I selected, “You had the power all along, my dear.” and I realize I truly do!
About the Author: Anna Shigematsu is a mother and life learner of self and knowledge. She is devoted to personal and spiritual growth through a deepened relationship with God, gratitude and optimism. She is a graduate: BA, Management, 2015 Magna Cum Laude Graduate of Chaminade University of Honolulu